2013年12月16日
Door Slams No More
Most of the time when it comes to allowing my five kids to experience new things, meet new people, or visit new places; I'm really looking for a reason to say "yes". headphone ampBeside the fact that this proposed sleepover was more than 200 miles away; and not to mention the fact that I have never met this "step-dad"; there was one factor that was certain to make my decision easy, and would doom this weekend get-away idea to failure--poor attitude.
Jasmine showed a really poor attitude when trying to answer the questions that I ALWAYS ask ANY of my kids relative to visiting with their friends. She was obviously frustrated with the idea that I wouldn't let her just run out of town and visit some random person's house, with no responsible adult guaranteeing her supervision and safety. [Um... no... that ain't happenin' cap'n.] So, after not answering my questions to my satisfaction, and subsequently not being allowed to have the sleepover compass college, Jasmine's poor attitude was richly displayed as she headed to her room, stomped up the stairs, and... [WHAM]... slammed her door.
So when it comes to dealing with selfish, rebellious, know-it-all teenagers; I've come to learn many things. One of which is this important principle. As a parent, and even though at sometimes I don't feel like it... I am the wisest person in the room, regardless of how much the teenagers think that they are. As parents, many times we get angry and respond inappropriately when it comes to dealing with our teens and the things that they do to try to "show us up". You may have already thought about how you would have responded to Jasmine, but I want to ask you a question. Would that response be the best response? I've learned that sometimes, in order to correct behavior, that behavior must be dealt with in a way that treats the problem and not the symptom.
I wasn't angry because Jasmine was angry; I was angry because of how Jasmine decided to express her anger. Slamming her door could cause the door to break, which would end up costing possibly a small but still significant amount of money to get it repaired. Unnecessary expenses make me angry. [When you have five children, every penny counts.] So after much thought and prayer, and even after taking a couple of days to act... I acted.
Let me encourage all of my fellow parents with this. Adults are wise enough to teach our teenagers a lesson; and not to just respond in anger just as they do.health supplements hong kong There should be a difference in the behavior of an adult, versus that of a teenager. Even if it takes two days for you to respond to rebellious behavior, I implore you to take the time. Not only will it pay off for you, but you will also see dramatic changes in how your children respond to you. And I believe that we should be in the business of showing our children the consequences of their behavior; be it good or bad. So how did I respond to Jasmine? I treated the problem... slamming her door; and not the symptom... her anger. And until I decide that she has learned her lesson... until I see that she knows who is the wisest person in the house... and until I'm convinced that she will never slam her bedroom door again... her bedroom door... won't be there. One way or the other, the door slams no more.
Jasmine showed a really poor attitude when trying to answer the questions that I ALWAYS ask ANY of my kids relative to visiting with their friends. She was obviously frustrated with the idea that I wouldn't let her just run out of town and visit some random person's house, with no responsible adult guaranteeing her supervision and safety. [Um... no... that ain't happenin' cap'n.] So, after not answering my questions to my satisfaction, and subsequently not being allowed to have the sleepover compass college, Jasmine's poor attitude was richly displayed as she headed to her room, stomped up the stairs, and... [WHAM]... slammed her door.
So when it comes to dealing with selfish, rebellious, know-it-all teenagers; I've come to learn many things. One of which is this important principle. As a parent, and even though at sometimes I don't feel like it... I am the wisest person in the room, regardless of how much the teenagers think that they are. As parents, many times we get angry and respond inappropriately when it comes to dealing with our teens and the things that they do to try to "show us up". You may have already thought about how you would have responded to Jasmine, but I want to ask you a question. Would that response be the best response? I've learned that sometimes, in order to correct behavior, that behavior must be dealt with in a way that treats the problem and not the symptom.
I wasn't angry because Jasmine was angry; I was angry because of how Jasmine decided to express her anger. Slamming her door could cause the door to break, which would end up costing possibly a small but still significant amount of money to get it repaired. Unnecessary expenses make me angry. [When you have five children, every penny counts.] So after much thought and prayer, and even after taking a couple of days to act... I acted.
Let me encourage all of my fellow parents with this. Adults are wise enough to teach our teenagers a lesson; and not to just respond in anger just as they do.health supplements hong kong There should be a difference in the behavior of an adult, versus that of a teenager. Even if it takes two days for you to respond to rebellious behavior, I implore you to take the time. Not only will it pay off for you, but you will also see dramatic changes in how your children respond to you. And I believe that we should be in the business of showing our children the consequences of their behavior; be it good or bad. So how did I respond to Jasmine? I treated the problem... slamming her door; and not the symptom... her anger. And until I decide that she has learned her lesson... until I see that she knows who is the wisest person in the house... and until I'm convinced that she will never slam her bedroom door again... her bedroom door... won't be there. One way or the other, the door slams no more.
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